Pof remover Meet Me

IMO the 'Meet Me' function is a scam. They view a picture of you and the other user indicates if you're attractive or not. Don't worry about it because odds are that person hasn't been to your profile. meet me on POF, help me understand this..... 4themoney Member Posts: 798 Member Member Posts: 798 Member. in Social Groups. ... Usually the guys that send me a message after they chose to meet me, went further and actually clicked into my profile and read it. That's what I do.. If the pics grab my attention, I'll go into their profile to see if ... Free POF Upgrade Hack To Get Around Seeing The People Who Want To Meet Me. Here is a simple hack to get right around that. POF got smart in 2016 (or they thought so).They deleted their POF Username Search. Today, we’re going to tell you everything you need to know about messaging on dating sites like Plenty of Fish: why your messages may not be sending, why you may not be receiving messages, and how to send a message that get replies.There are a number of different reasons why all the above may be happening to you and if they are, read on to find answers to frequently asked questions we receive. MeetMe helps you find new people nearby who share your interests and want to chat now! It’s fun, friendly, and free! Join 100+ MILLION PEOPLE chatting and making new friends. It’s for all ages, all nationalities, all backgrounds — EVERYONE! So what are you waiting for? Join the best site for finding new friends to chat with! Free online dating and matchmaking service for singles. 3,000,000 Daily Active Online Dating Users. How to Speed Up and Automate Meet Me on POF.com. There is a program that is specifically designed to play the meet me game for you. Just let the program run in the background all by itself while you go off and do something else. The program is called Plenty Of Fish Fast. The program automatically clicks the buttons at randomized time intervals. Our most popular feature, Meet Me, allows you to swipe on users near you and find more dates. POF reviews (www.pof.com): Unable to pay for subscription. Pissed off. It is horrible!!! I have a wife whose life is in danger from someone unknown she met who is in a gang. Need a profile remover with my picture. could not find my account and was no help VERY DISAPPOINTED!!!! Transgender women. POF sends me a complete refund. Helpful 44 people found this review helpful ... When you don't go to bar or out anywhere to meet new people, online is the best way. But also be careful and have a ...

Why are some men terrible?

2020.08.29 23:33 EDMRox23 Why are some men terrible?

So this has happened to me multiple times recently but here I go, so I started to chat with someone from POF(least favourite dating app i’ve since deleted) about 2 weeks ago, they live about an and a half away, so last weekend we had made plans to meet this weekend and about an hour from me so half way. We were messaging all week up until last night around 10pm, so today comes and I haven’t heard anything all morning, didn’t even open my last message confirming that today we were gonna meet so this afternoon around 1pm I send a message on Snapchat because thats where we have been chatting and it appears I was either blocked or removed because it wasn’t showing his snap score anymore and it was saying add him but it couldn’t find his username. I was clearly ghosted as this has happened numerous times when we arrange to meet.... what do I have to do to meet someone that isn’t into these games?
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2020.08.02 17:43 llzerdklng Liz meets woman :O... A diary of sorts…

I was in the process of removing profiles and such and as odd/crazy as it sounds POF (remember Dumpster fire of online dating) was the last one to go. Then I got a message from what now is an awesome woman.
We talked and discussed what I have come to learn in the typical questions about who I am, and who she was, which was great since it seemed like we are looking for the same things (which I know to me is crazy still). The more we talked on the app, the more I felt comfortable to take if off POF to texting/calling. Once we exchanged numbers, the conversation kept for the lack of a better word continued to flow “naturally.” We then both agreed to meet at this point.
As many in the chatroom know by this point, I was nervous AS FUCK! Although I was nervous, I was able to hold it back with that confidence wall; I think :O.
We decided to meet at a park that was about halfway between where we live. Sure we were both nervous, but it didn’t take long until the flow of the conversation we had on the app was still flowing naturally in person. We talked about pretty much anything, our pasts, and what we are looking for, our next partner. The more we talked (although I don’t know how she felt), but it felt more and more natural to me. Before we knew it, 2 hours had passed, yes 2 hours of talking, and often laughing (same sense of humor, double bonus points here). At this point, we had to part ways as she had to meet her family.
Our talking didn’t end there as we continued to text back and forth and ended the night with didn’t seem that long of even more natural flowing conversation. We also have made arrangements for :O date #2 laters today. We both already agreed to take things slowly as well; no need to rush into something.
Well, DO40, Liz, is officially dating now. What the HECK? I just wanted to share that yeah, I guess that lightning can strike anywhere and at any time. So keep that mind open.
(She might even be a redditor, and if you are HI! Let me know if I missed anything 😉 )
Edit: Well got home a little while ago from I guess date 2 (close to 3 hours just chilling talking and Mexican food) :S, so far so good. :)
Edit: 2 Thanks for all the thanks and well wishes, even though YALL are the REAL MVP for dealing with my crazy ass questions. :) I know I am just starting on this journey and really can but cant wait to see where it goes..
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2020.05.07 16:36 TrentonConnector This Month Marks 4 Years On Dating Sites

So I just realized it's been 4 years since I put myself on dating sites. Time to ramble about it.
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I've used OkCupid, Plenty Of Fish, and Bumble. I was skeptical about dating sites until two of my other 'kissless, hugless virgin' friends got dating apps and, within months, found the loves of their lives that they're still with today. I figured that even if I didn't find a significant other I could at least get some experience with dating. It didn't go as well for me, obviously ^ ^ ;
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In four years I've met up with 3 people (none of whom agreed to meet up with me again) and matches/likes are extremely rare (maybe 1/month or less). Receiving messages/replies to messages is even less common. Last conversation I had got only 3 replies from the other person before they bailed. All this despite doing profile critiques on the subreddits for each dating app, constantly updating my photos/profile, and going through hundreds of women's profiles (the phrase "I love going on adventures!" is burned into my retinas). Between talking to friends who've used dating apps and reading experiences of both men and women online, women tend to be much less inclined to initiate contact, which adds to my challenge as I tend to talk myself out of initiating strangers but am much more comfortable when others initiate with me.
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Before getting a dating app I believed that it wouldn't be too hard to at least get a date, that I could get messages/replies every few days, etc, so it's been discouraging to find out that this only usually happens if you live in massive cities or if you're the cream of the crop. To make it worse, my friends who have success stories from dating sites no longer talk to me, despite me being friends with them for years before they got partners.
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Anyway, in terms of the itty-bitty successes I've had, Bumble has been the best site (mostly because it forces its female users to initiate conversations), OkCupid's been decent but is getting more and more like Tinder with each update, and Plenty of Fish is by far the worst--POF automatically deletes accounts that accumulate more than 3 blocks against them within a certain time-frame, and on dating sites women tend to block men that they simply don't want to reply to.
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All that said, I'm not gonna stop trying. The way I see it, though my chances are incredibly low and women obviously don't see me as a catch, I might just run into a charming forever-aloner who happens to be a girl eventually. I know my chances will go from slim to absolute zero if I remove myself entirely from the dating pool, so yeah.
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2020.03.09 03:07 NotoriusF_A_G I can't decide if dating apps are worth it or not

Been on Bumble, Tinder, POF, match, Coffee meets bagel, and okcupid for a month. Not a single match, except with bots. I hate to complain on here, because I feel like most FA's have a problem of being innately "ugly", boring, or both. Its unfortunate, but I don't think I'm ugly at all, but maybe boring to normal American standards. I have plenty of "friends" but I need a partner, and I'd like to start a family someday. In almost every facet of my daily life theirs a notion of romance/love/family. I'm not really a sexual person, and I don't care that I'm a KHV, but everyone around me isn't and they don't know why but make fun of me for it or just think it's a dumb problem. Most movies or shows I have multiple people constantly developing relationships. Its apparently super easy for everyone else, and so commonplace it's a necessary story dynamic. I can't put myself out there on multiple platforms and max out age and distance range, but no one wants me. I don't know why, but now I can't wait till my cooldowns run out so I can start swiping again. I never get any matches, at least not this first month. Even on POF and OKC you can just send messages to whoever with no limit. No one replies. It's also great that I get notified that they all look at my profile but still don't even give me a chance. I keep going until I start crying and I can't see the screen anymore. I wish I could remove the part of my brain that makes me want love.
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2019.12.15 04:33 neverforme Feels like I'm dying

My life has been slowly losing pieces for years, ever since I kicked out my ex. She was abusive, almost killed me because she kept me awake all week and I usually only got a few hours a week. Almost crashed into a river because I fell asleep at the wheel. Ended up with 50/50 custody with my kids, and I regret not being able to stay with their mother so they could be happy. The oldest turned 2, 3 days before I kicked her out. My youngest wasn't born for 6 months, so has never experienced an intact home. The guilt is always there, and almost unbearable most days. I love my kids, I don't regret them in the slightest, tho they were conceived without my knowledge, to be used as tools to keep me trapped. That's not their fault, and I don't resent them no matter how much my life revolves around them. I had to fight tooth and nail for custody. If I lost them, I have no doubt I'd be dead soon after.
I've been single for 5 years now, couldn't get a date to save my life. Been told MANY times that I'm not a viable partner, because of my kids. I've been told this by single mothers more often than not. I've been told I'm hurting their mother because I'm keeping them from her half the time, or that I'm only doing it to stick it to her and avoid child support payments. I get stupid sexist comments when I bring them to the park, only had the cops called once, great guys, told off the caller. Had one girl that seemed interested, met on POF, exchanged numbers, over 2 and a half years knowing where she lived and never meeting her. I spoke very plainly how I wanted to date her, we traded pictures of each other and each other's kiddos. After I realized I had known her without meeting her long enough to tell her happy birthday 3 times, and a friend gave me back advice that I had given her (it's either fuck yes or no) I cut the girl out. Whatever her intentions were, it wasn't leading anywhere. We lived about a 10 minute drive apart. Soon after that another friend told me to lose her number, because her boyfriend/baby daddy didn't like her talking to other guys. Fine whatever. And now my last friend, the one with the returned advice, doesn't have the time of day for me. Used to be we would make a point to meet once a month, minimum, either at a park for our kids to play together, or meet for her lunch break. Now I only see her a tiny bit when I run into her at school functions. She answers texts and such, at her convenience, which fine I get it. After 20 years, we are finally drifting apart. But that's it for friends. Nada. In Scouts with my oldest, I can't seem to connect with any other parents. I get lumped in with their mother, who white trash yells at my kids there. She's almost at the point from getting banned, but my and my sons reputations aren't too shiny.
"But what about my family?" You probably aren't asking. They hate my kids mother and it obviously comes out on them. I've had to yell at them for trash talking their mom in front of them, all true but that's parental exclusionary abuse. They don't understand it hurts them. My mother is most hateful to them. Doesn't care when they are bullied by my 9 year old brother, makes excuses. NEVER shows a bit of affection or nice words to them. Hugs? Nope. Yells at them for doing the same things as their cousins? Yep, but not at the cousins. Wouldn't be nearly as bad except I'm stuck living with them. My ex destroyed my finances, as part of her abuse she was constantly stealing money from me. Barely leaving me enough for rent, and I was mostly starving with no money for rent. I'm trying to save up to leave, but if barely afford a place in town, and I don't want to take my kids out of the school system. They have minor issues due to their mother drinking while pregnant, not enough to be diagnosed, but enough to affect them. I know from first hand experience she was drinking while pregnant. My oldest is getting depressed from his mother not having time for him due to her 5 month baby. And she just announced another one. I am scared to ask him about it because I don't want to put thoughts in his head, and get blamed for it by family court. Direct quote from a 7 year old "momma only has time for the baby" which is heartbreaking and terrifying. I do everything I can to make them feel loved, but it's getting harder. Not because I don't love them, I love them more each day and I feel like dying every time I have to give them back to her. But because I feel like I'm nothing. I give them everything I can, but I never feel like it will ever be enough to make up for the broken home, for having to live half the week with me and a bunch of people that generally don't like them and half the week at a boarding house (their mother lives in a boarding house with her husband, her step daughter, her baby, my boys, and is pregnant). I struggle to give my kids as much as I possibly can, summer camp, camping trips, road trips, videogames, tons of affection. I don't let them play outside at home because they get yelled at for the whole mess and demanded to clean it up. Even if all 7 kids were out there. But I take them to parks to play, regardless of how tired I am all the time. I play with them, I watch TV with them, I do homework whenever it's there to be done. Maximum effort, I want them looking back and seeing how much I love them. But when they aren't here, I can barely function. My job is a good one, and has a lot of down time. Videogames I used to love and enjoy, I can't focus enough to play and not get bored. I try, but even playing online with people, I usually feel like I'm playing alone. I have loved reading all my life, started reading Stephen King books in 6th grade and I can't focus enough to read anymore. I listen to audiobooks while driving and that's as far as I can manage. I'm scared to go to therapy, because if their mother finds out, she will use it against me to try and take them from me. Shows I used to love, I only enjoy watching with my little buddies. I'm destroyed on Christmas when I have to give them to their mother mid way through the day. My birthday hasn't been celebrated in years. Tho my mother has a meltdown if hers is ignored a week later (no matter how much she says she doesn't want gifts or a party) but didn't care that mine is skipped, and comes up with manipulative excuses as to why it's fine.
I feel like a husk. Like I'll never really be happy beyond my kids ever again. Just to have another adult human hug me and say it will be ok would do so much good, yet its out of reach and feels like it will be forever. When my boys aren't here I can barely get out of bed. I don't know what I can do. I can't seem to enjoy anything without my kids. There's no help for me. No one cares about single fathers, and even if I could get help, the courts are so biased against fathers, who knows what would happen. Their mother gets a DUI with them? Loses them for a month. My oldest has an accident that could have easily killed him due to her negligence? Loses them for 2 weeks. I don't want to take them from her completely, no matter what they love their mother. One day they will see what she is and decide from there, but for now I won't hurt them by trying to remove their mother except for threats to their health. I'm going to be alone forever, except for them, and him boot going to give them reason to hate me or cut off contract when they are older. I just hope I survive long enough, not that I would doing anything to myself, but I can feel my health degrading because of this mental state. I don't care about myself, except getting done what needs to be done for them. And I know that can't work, or my body will just self destruct on its own. But I can't fix it.
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2019.12.01 05:41 neverforme My life no longer exists

My life has been slowly losing pieces for years, ever since I kicked out my ex. She was abusive, almost killed me because she kept me awake all week and I usually only got a few hours a week. Almost crashed into a river because I fell asleep at the wheel. Ended up with 50/50 custody with my kids, and I regret not being able to stay with their mother so they could be happy. The oldest turned 2, 3 days before I kicked her out. My youngest wasn't born for 6 months, so has never experienced an intact home. The guilt is always there, and almost unbearable most days. I love my kids, I don't regret them in the slightest, tho they were conceived without my knowledge, to be used as tools to keep me trapped. That's not their fault, and I don't resent them no matter how much my life revolves around them. I had to fight tooth and nail for custody. If I lost them, I have no doubt I'd be dead soon after.
I've been single for 5 years now, couldn't get a date to save my life. Been told MANY times that I'm not a viable partner, because of my kids. I've been told this by single mothers more often than not. I've been told I'm hurting their mother because I'm keeping them from her half the time, or that I'm only doing it to stick it to her and avoid child support payments. I get stupid sexist comments when I bring them to the park, only had the cops called once, great guys, told off the caller. Had one girl that seemed interested, met on POF, exchanged numbers, over 2 and a half years knowing where she lived and never meeting her. I spoke very plainly how I wanted to date her, we traded pictures of each other and each other's kiddos. After I realized I had known her without meeting her long enough to tell her happy birthday 3 times, and a friend gave me back advice that I had given her (it's either fuck yes or no) I cut the girl out. Whatever her intentions were, it wasn't leading anywhere. We lived about a 10 minute drive apart. Soon after that another friend told me to lose her number, because her boyfriend/baby daddy didn't like her talking to other guys. Fine whatever. And now my last friend, the one with the returned advice, doesn't have the time of day for me. Used to be we would make a point to meet once a month, minimum, either at a park for our kids to play together, or meet for her lunch break. Now I only see her a tiny bit when I run into her at school functions. She answers texts and such, at her convenience, which fine I get it. After 20 years, we are finally drifting apart. But that's it for friends. Nada. In Scouts with my oldest, I can't seem to connect with any other parents. I get lumped in with their mother, who white trash yells at my kids there. She's almost at the point from getting banned, but my and my sons reputations aren't too shiny.
"But what about my family?" You probably aren't asking. They hate my kids mother and it obviously comes out on them. I've had to yell at them for trash talking their mom in front of them, all true but that's parental exclusionary abuse. They don't understand it hurts them. My mother is most hateful to them. Doesn't care when they are bullied by my 9 year old brother, makes excuses. NEVER shows a bit of affection or nice words to them. Hugs? Nope. Yells at them for doing the same things as their cousins? Yep, but not at the cousins. Wouldn't be nearly as bad except I'm stuck living with them. My ex destroyed my finances, as part of her abuse she was constantly stealing money from me. Barely leaving me enough for rent, and I was mostly starving with no money for rent. I'm trying to save up to leave, but if barely afford a place in town, and I don't want to take my kids out of the school system. They have minor issues due to their mother drinking while pregnant, not enough to be diagnosed, but enough to affect them. I know from first hand experience she was drinking while pregnant. My oldest is getting depressed from his mother not having time for him due to her 5 month baby. And she just announced another one. I am scared to ask him about it because I don't want to put thoughts in his head, and get blamed for it by family court. Direct quote from a 7 year old "momma only has time for the baby" which is heartbreaking and terrifying. I do everything I can to make them feel loved, but it's getting harder. Not because I don't love them, I love them more each day and I feel like dying every time I have to give them back to her. But because I feel like I'm nothing. I give them everything I can, but I never feel like it will ever be enough to make up for the broken home, for having to live half the week with me and a bunch of people that generally don't like them and half the week at a boarding house (their mother lives in a boarding house with her husband, her step daughter, her baby, my boys, and is pregnant). I struggle to give my kids as much as I possibly can, summer camp, camping trips, road trips, videogames, tons of affection. I don't let them play outside at home because they get yelled at for the whole mess and demanded to clean it up. Even if all 7 kids were out there. But I take them to parks to play, regardless of how tired I am all the time. I play with them, I watch TV with them, I do homework whenever it's there to be done. Maximum effort, I want them looking back and seeing how much I love them. But when they aren't here, I can barely function. My job is a good one, and has a lot of down time. Videogames I used to love and enjoy, I can't focus enough to play and not get bored. I try, but even playing online with people, I usually feel like I'm playing alone. I have loved reading all my life, started reading Stephen King books in 6th grade and I can't focus enough to read anymore. I listen to audiobooks while driving and that's as far as I can manage. I'm scared to go to therapy, because if their mother finds out, she will use it against me to try and take them from me. Shows I used to love, I only enjoy watching with my little buddies. I'm destroyed on Christmas when I have to give them to their mother mid way through the day. My birthday hasn't been celebrated in years. Tho my mother has a meltdown if hers is ignored a week later (no matter how much she says she doesn't want gifts or a party) but didn't care that mine is skipped, and comes up with manipulative excuses as to why it's fine.
I feel like a husk. Like I'll never really be happy beyond my kids ever again. Just to have another adult human hug me and say it will be ok would do so much good, yet its out of reach and feels like it will be forever. When my boys aren't here I can barely get out of bed. I don't know what I can do. I can't seem to enjoy anything without my kids. There's no help for me. No one cares about single fathers, and even if I could get help, the courts are so biased against fathers, who knows what would happen. Their mother gets a DUI with them? Loses them for a month. My oldest has an accident that could have easily killed him due to her negligence? Loses them for 2 weeks. I don't want to take them from her completely, no matter what they love their mother. One day they will see what she is and decide from there, but for now I won't hurt them by trying to remove their mother except for threats to their health. I'm going to be alone forever, except for them, and him boot going to give them reason to hate me or cut off contract when they are older. I just hope I survive long enough, not that I would doing anything to myself, but I can feel my health degrading because of this mental state. I don't care about myself, except getting done what needs to be done for them. And I know that can't work, or my body will just self destruct on its own. But I can't fix it.
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2019.11.29 03:48 tggrinc1st Things you need to know about online dating sites before you sign up. Part Two.

As winter and the holidays approach the number of people searching for companionship online and joining dating websites rises. So it's time to remind everyone of the fraudulent behavior that those dating sites engage in. These are deliberately fraudulent activities designed to get lonely people to spend money on their sites.
If you have not seen part one of this post I suggest that you start there: https://www.reddit.com/OpinionsReviewsViews/comments/e37b5d/things_you_need_to_know_about_online_dating_sites/
Plenty of Fish, Match, OK cupid, and Tinder are all owned by the same company and all of them engage in some variation of the fraudulent behaviors that I will be describing. But they are not alone in this. Every dating site employs some or all of the fraudulent strategies described below. Some have their own variations on these schemes but they all have the same end goal.
NOTE: The more sexually oriented the site, the more they will lie. The lies will be bigger and they will be more aggressive in their attempts to defraud you. You are far more likely to be the victim of credit card fraud and identity theft on these adult oriented sites. This includes Adult Friend Finders, Ashley Madison, and other self-proclaimed sex dating sites.
 
Common practices of online dating sites.
 
They lie about how many users they have. Perform a very restrictive search on any personals or hook-up site and they will claim that there are hundreds, if not thousands, of members that meet your criteria. But you will find that the vast majority of these profiles are fake and a significant portion of the remaining profiles are old and the users that created them are long gone. On POF, the vast majority of the profiles are fake or very old. On adult/sex dating sites 99.99% of the profiles are fake.
Example: I performed a search with a limited area and age range on one site and it told me that there were over a million active users in my area. I checked the population of the city and surrounding area. If there were one million single women in my area, I would be the only male within 100 square miles.
The Match group that owns the websites noted above claims that they have nine million registered users across all of their platforms. But the FTC estimated that over 50% of the profiles on their sites are fake. And that's the best case scenario.
 
There are multiple sources, both internal and external, creating these fake profiles.
In part one of this post, I discussed how the sites employees deliberately create fake profiles and contact users to scam them into purchasing memberships and other content. But there are other groups creating fake profiles for a variety of reasons. The massive number of fake profiles created by external sources keeps the already inflated user numbers high, so they have no incentive to remove these profiles.
 
Scammers and outside sources that create fake profiles.
 
The most common are the redirect scammers. As discussed in part one, they try to redirect users to another website. Those other websites have a variety of goals: To get you to buy their memberships. To steal your credit card information. To steal your identity. To direct you to a malicious site with a virus. Or to a site where they will use a malicious browser pop-up to initiate a more elaborate Microsoft support scam.
The lonely hearts scammers. These people are more rare but do more damage to the individuals that they scam. They look for lonely people and pretend to be in love with them and ask them to send money. These are usually foreign scammers. Nigeria is famous for this. But groups in every foreign country have been found targeting lonely Americans with these schemes.
They typically start small and then ask for larger and larger sums of money. There's always some kind of crisis or emergency that you can help them solve by sending them some money. Or maybe they need that money to get a passport or a visa so that they can come to the US. But there will always be just one more thing preventing them from leaving.
I don't care how long you've been talking to them, how many pictures they've sent, or what they've promised. It is a scam.
Bride scams work the same way. The Russian and Oriental countries appear to be the biggest offenders in this area. There are entire websites dedicated to Russian, Ukrainian, Thai, Chinese, and other bride scams.
 
The internal and external fake profiles behave differently. At least on POF they follow a definite pattern, so you can usually tell them apart.
The external fake profiles appear, spam emails to as many users as possible, and then disappear.
The internal fakes primarily use the MEET ME feature. This is a paid feature on POF. Where the user receives an email claiming that someone wants to meet them. If a user doesn't know how to work around the pay wall, they would have to pay to see the indicated profile. Fortunately for me, I know how to bypass this feature and see these profiles for free. (See below to see how to bypass the 'meet me' pay wall.)
If a user is actively using POF they'll get a few of these meet-me notification emails a week. If they stop using it the emails will continue to arrive but slowly decrease in frequency to one or two a month.
However, if a user logs in their account after being away for a while, they will automatically get several 'meet-me' requests. Usually two at a time. You can usually tell which ones are fake simply from the name. They usually have names that include lots of random numbers or have under score lines in them. (example: susan_random9589)
The vast majority of these "meet me" notifications are from fake accounts. I know they are fake for several reasons. For starters, they show up within minutes of me logging in. They never viewed my profile. And most of them are deleted and un-viewable before I can check to see what their profile looks like. Those that are still viewable are brand new profiles with one sentence descriptions and stock pictures of very young models that are half the age that the profile states.
All internally created fake profiles are hidden behind a pay wall. If you find a profile that you like and try to contact them but get a message that says something like this: "You need to be a premium member to contact this user." It's a fake profile.
 
I'm trying to keep these posts to two pages each. So I will continue in part three.
 
The meet me feature is a lie.
 
So you've received an email saying that someone wants to "meet you." Well there's a 98% chance that it's a fake profile that was created by an employee that's trying to get you to purchase a membership. There's a 1% chance that it's someone that saw your picture on the 'meet me' app but didn't look at your profile. So they don't even know what state you live in. And the last 1% are the ones that actually read your profile, might be within 100 miles of your location, but don't meet any of your dating criteria. (age, race, sex, etc.)
 
How to bypass the 'meet me' pay wall on POF.
EDIT 07/20: There is no longer a way to bypass the "meet me" pay wall on POF.
 
There is more information in part three of this post: https://www.reddit.com/OpinionsReviewsViews/comments/e5p4lj/things_you_need_to_know_about_online_dating_sites/
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2019.11.02 16:26 Kazsta POF filter-blocked message, any ideas on the trigger?

I'm not really much of a redditor, but this seems to be an active PoF queries community. I've just given up on a message that I tried to send, and sent something else. I tried the original one about 5 or 6 times before giving up on it. Essentially the second message is vastly inferior to the one I wanted to send, but can "anyone" see what would have caused it to not send.
For some context, she had an uploaded photo that was upside down, and another with her and a dog, mentioned (among other things) that she liked conspiracy theories and offered "Dog's or Cats", "Fruit or Veg" and "Marmite or Peanut Butter" as conversation starters.
Usually I can easily spot the irritating filter blockage, but this one has me stumped. Any ideas?
Thanks for providing us with a pic that shows what you look like upside-down. It's good to know that if the world turns entirely on its head just before we meet for a date, that I could still recognise you. [[That's, of course, assuming that you uploaded it that way, and it's not a horrible conspiracy from PoF to fool some of us into thinking they have a bigger selection of Australians in the UK than is the case.]]{\ tried removing in case the PoF conspiracy comment was triggering filters})
It would seem that there's not much point in asking a dog owner if they prefer dogs or cats, and "fruits vs veggies" sounds like a trick question. The best veggies (IMO piccolo tomatoes and sweet peppers) are fruits anyway (according to the botanists).
I guess that means that I'd better find out if you're [[lover, a hater]][[an acquired taste who polarises opinions]]{\tried both versions}), or [[just plain nuts]][[smooth and a bit nutty]]{\ tried both versions}).
Marmite or Peanut Butter?
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2019.08.27 19:57 Pineapple_anon I think I was raped

Hello, women of Reddit,
I’m a 19-year-old girl who would like to share my experience with what I’ve been through. My story isn’t a typical rape story I wasn’t abused, I wasn’t assaulted, I wasn't drugged, and I wasn’t drunk. The person who did “it” was someone I knew online. Someone who I had feelings towards, a boy.
I broke up with my boyfriend the year before. It was messy and I ended up losing most of my friends. I decided not to date for a year. For university, I took a gap year and within the year I got lonely. I decided to download a dating app POF (Plenty of Fish). At first, the app was used to just talk to people, anyone. My intentions on the app were just to make friends. Although I met a guy on there that wasn’t your typical attractive guy, something drew me towards him.
He didn’t seem that interested at first but after a while, he started texting more. I was so excited, and I would tell my friends about him. I wanted to have a relationship with this guy. We talked more constantly for a month when he started wanting to meet up. I was excited and scared.
I’m a very shy and bigger girl. I was so scared that my appearance would make him not like me. So, I would refuse constantly and say that I wanted to know him better. During that time, I would work out, do daily skin routine so when I did see him, I would’ve looked amazing.
I met a different guy on the app and hanged out with him as we established the relationship was just friendship. The guy I liked was mad, he was really really mad. He said that I was wasting his time, meeting other guys and refusing to see him. I told him that I don’t care about my appearance because the other guy was just a friend, I didn’t need to impress anyone. I told him that I wanted to look the best for him. He didn’t talk to me for a week. I was worried because I really liked him, I would text him every day to tell my side of the story, telling him that I liked him a lot. I felt so guilty and I started blaming myself a lot.
After a week he started to talk to me again. I was so relieved and happy. He said that he wanted to meet up again. I told him the truth that I was worried that he wouldn’t like the way I looked. He told me to send him a photo. He has not seen any of my photos yet. He told me to use SnapChat so it would disappear, and I wouldn’t need to worry. I reluctantly added and took a selfie. He said I was cute and had nothing to worry about. I was feeling more confident and agreed to meet up.
I wanted to meet up in a public place in the city. He refused he said that travelling was too far. It takes an hour by bus from my place and an hour by train from his place. I suggested other places, but he kept refusing and saying to meet at his place when his parents weren’t home. This felt shady and I didn’t want to be a one night stand. I asked him what he wanted from this because I wanted a relationship, not just sex. He told me he just wanted someone to cuddle. I felt better and decided to go to his place.
My cousin drove me to his place and it took 2 hours. My cousin was waiting for me at a nearby shopping centre. We arrived I was so nervous it took all the courage to walk up to his driveway. His room was in the basement and the door was separate from the main house. When he opened the door my heart dropped, he looked different than his photo, but I already liked him and I was already there. I didn’t want to disappoint him or waste his time. I entered his room and we laid on his bed I place a pillow between us because I didn’t want to see his face. I was so shy and nervous. He had Netflix on, but I didn’t remember what show. He slowly removed the pillow when I was more comfortable. We then kissed and I was feeling okay, but when he started becoming rougher, I didn’t enjoy it. He opened a condom and we proceeded to have sex. I HATE IT, I ABSOLUTELY HATE IT, I just wanted to go home, I wanted to leave. I spent the whole time staring at the ceiling while he fucked me. He would occasionally get really rough and I would tell him to be gentler which he would but only for a brief second before he was rough again. I told him several time that he was too rough. I tried to find different ways to escape, telling him I had to leave soon or what if his parents caught us. Eventually, I made him paranoid, so he stopped, and I went home.
I quickly walked out and walk five houses down the road and called my cousin to pick me up. I then proceed to call my best friend and cry to him. I told him that I feel used and uncomfortable and I wanted to leave. He asked me if I was raped and I said No because I let it happen and it was consensual. As soon as I got home my friend came over and comforted me and stayed the whole night.
I don't know why but the next day I felt so relieved. That now I no longer had to see or text this guy. That my debt towards him was paid or something. He would still occasionally try to text me, but I blocked him.
I’m writing my story today because I was watching some documentary about women bring rape and their stories got to me. A woman describing her experience made me cry so much because I felt like I understood part of her experience. I still don't know if I was rapped I just know that I was uncomfortable, I was scared and I wanted to leave. I don’t know why I didn’t say stop or no but I know I didn’t want it. I don’t blame him for what happened because it was consensual at first and he probably didn’t realise how he made me feel. Thank you for reading.
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2019.07.13 15:58 sippin0nsizzurp For all of those struggling with Prostate/Urinary issues due excessive masturbation. Please read this.

I just want to start out by saying that you are not alone. I have been having symptoms since 2013. There is hope though. I promise. I want this to be somewhat of an impromptu guide for other sufferers of what i have learned, so you dont have to go through what i have. PLEASE PLEASE COMMENT AND ADD TO THIS GUIDE AS YOU SEE FIT !
The link between excessive masturbation and an enlarged prostate is not well known by medical science. Scanning the internet, you can only find a handful of articles with a loose connection between the two. However I have found a fair amount of discussion on this subject in different forums, which tells me that there are other sufferers. I want to say that this IS a real thing, I know this for a fact.
Improper masturbation techniques, such as long edging periods and "death grip" can all trigger these symptoms as well. It doesnt have to just be frequent masturbation which is defined by me as 1-3 times a day.
I also want to say that this forum is usually based around porn and how it has ruined guys. The same thing can be said for Instagram, Tinder, Bumble, POF, Facebook, etc. Pretty much any site that has triggers on it and pictures of women. It is not natural to jerk off to any of this shit, and will eventually rewire your brain just the way pornography does.
This is going to sound like a shirty humble brag, but ive had all those dating apps for a while now, and i do quite well on them. Matching with beautiful women fairly frequently. When i matched with one, or got them to agree to hang out with me, that was the green light for me to jerk off to their pictures. I never really even have any interest in actually meeting up with any of them. How fucking unhealthy is that on so many levels.. These apps were basically functioning as my love life and my girlfriend. I had no interest in talking to girls in real life. Realizing this puts your self confidence in the fucking toilet, and that makes the cycle even worse. Its a catch 22. All im saying is that any of those sites besides porn can also rewire your brain in an awful way and make you question who you have become.
Honestly if youre going to make any progress with your symptoms physically or mentally, all of these accounts you have need to be temporarily, or ideally permenantly deleted. Remove all the triggers that were in place before. There are a few guides to no fap that you can google that have a lot of good information. Now back to this..
I can correlate that everytime after i masturbate, my symptoms flare up to an extent.
Here is a list of my current symptoms: -Urge to urinate -Not much pee coming out -Frequent urination -Weak stream -Dribbling after i finish -ED to an extent. A relatively new symptom of mine. Within the past year
Your symptoms are probably somewhat similar, although i think im in a worse boat than most people because 6 years of this bullshit takes its toll.
I notice that within 48 hours of me stopping my habit, the urgency to urinate and frequency of bathroom visits have already been getting better. Morning erections somewhat come back after a week or so, and i have harder overall erections. Unfortunately because of my lack of willpower i have never made it past 8 days of no fap. I have heard of others symptoms vastly improving or cured after 1-3 months of no fap. 1 month hard mode is mandatory. There is a difference between getting off with a girl and getting off by yourself and your body somehow knows it. Obviously getting off with a girl is much more healthy than doing it yourself because for me it does not lead to symptoms like if i were doing it alone.
I also know for a fact that there is a HUGE link between mental distress such as depression or anxiety and a flare up of symptoms. Unfortunately when im depressed or anxious, i like to do things that comfort me such as masturbation. Another viscous cycle.
All in all, i think the human body is really resilient and can bounce back. We just need to give our body the time to do this. Please dont get discouraged if you dont see your symptoms improve right away. I have struggled with this. On the opposite side. I have seen my symptoms improve so much, that i thought i was on the path to being cured and fell right back into my old habits. This put me right back at square one.
For some people they can masturbate 2 or 3 times a day and have no problem whatsoever. For those of us that do develop serious symptoms, that means we have a life sentence of limiting the amount of times we masturbate. I have yet to come to a good number because i have not made it that far. But for now we need to concentrate on nofap and giving our prostates the much needed rest they deserve.
Please take a prostate supplement along with turmeric and a multi vitamin. Try and eat healthy and exercise. You can drink and smoke pot if thats what you want, but do know they may cause a flare up. Especially alcohol. Obviously try and moderate.
The most important aspect is to get back to having fun and distracting yourself from worrying about the symptoms. This will yield the greatest result. I promise. Dont sit at home on your days off of work or school. Get out and go visit an old friend, go to the park. Go to the beach. Take in a new atmosphere somewhere you havent been. Get out of your comfort zone. This will make you forget about things for a while, and those moments mean the world.
Please talk to me about any questions you have or share your story with me. I promise i will respond.
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2019.07.05 00:27 Kuleon Losing touch/interest with GW2?

Before I start, I want to preface this ‘what might sound as a rant’ post by telling you all that I love this game. Always did—I love the story (particularly after POF!), love the combat, love its casual nature, and just about everything about it. I’ve finished each and every part of its story (I like hunting for lore), grinded for several legendaries, have reached 150 AR for fractals, have been heavily involved with PvP (managed to reach top 250 several seasons ago), and have done my fair share of WvW.
Recently, I’ve been feeling lost, without much to do in the game. I love the story, yes, but damn, are the releases slow! I understand the Devs need time, but waiting nearly 6 months for ~3hrs of new story content is a sucker to wait for. So, as any other sane person, I do other things.
PvP: The game mode is slowly dying, and we all know it. It feels like literally 1 dev is working on PvP (Ben, the beast of a man). Besides ~4hrs of prime time a day, queuing as a Plat 2 player, I’m often matched with Silver players. It feels more like: how well can I farm the other team compared to the other team’s best player. Or, how much worse is my team compared to the others. I’ve won 3v1s and still lost games, because of the clown fiesta. And the win trading. Wow. DCs after DCs after AFK players after Players that are clearly throwing, it’s disgusting. Takes away from the game mode. And I’m not blaming the player base or my teammates. Clearly, PvP has been adbandoned, and it’s lost it’s charm for me.
Solutions? 3v3s. Possibly 2v2s—the Dwaynas Duo tournament was FUN. But for gods sake, it was removed, and was a one time event? I simply don’t understand. Sure, it’s not fully balanced, but it was a fun game mode, and had NONE of the problems I mentioned above.
WvW: Same as PvP, it feels abandoned. Zerg v Zerg—fun, but gets tedious after a while. Nothing much has changed in 7 years. Warclaw was nice, but now people run like the wind if you try to roam. People literally zoom off at the speed of light if you try to roam with a non-long ranged character that cant de-mount. And gods, roaming is so empty. The player base is shrinking, and sometimes I can roam for 30 minutes at a time without meeting anyone. (And this is prime time). Non prime time? You can roam for hours w/o seeing another body.
PVE: Raids&Fractals? Fun, but boring after repeating the same old for weeks on end. My favorite are the new stories. They’re amazing, deep with lore and an excitement to play through, but several hours of content once every 4-6 months? It’s painful. I’ve gotten all the legendaries I’d want to grind for, and unfortunately am NOT an achievement hunter (props to those who are) and am now left with a feeling of emptiness.
I don’t feel that same excitement of exploring places in the game, nor the immersion of new story content. I don’t get that buzz of competitiveness in any of the game-modes, nor do I feel I have any more purpose in the game (besides min-maxing in achievements, which I don’t do).
Maybe I’ve just done everything, or maybe I’m just burnt out from the game. But I love GW2, and seeing other MMOs like ESO coming with expansions packed with content like Elsweyr or FFXIV with Shadowbringers leads me feeling quite empty. GW2’s next expansion being years away (after an entire extra season of Living World) is quite depressing and leads me wanting more.
Maybe I’m asking for too much, but as of how the state of the game is now, I’m considering playing ESO instead. Thinking of another game brings me that same feeling of excitement that GW2 no longer sparks. I’m sure I’m not the only person that feels this way, and was wondering what everyone else was thinking.
What are your thoughts? Do you feel the same way I do? Where should the game go from here? And has anyone else considered playing another MMO?
Thanks for reading :)
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2019.07.03 23:58 zcolkins Me (35F) and (38M) intense casual relationship gone awry helllllppppp

Ok, buckle up. I met J on POF about 2 months ago. We hit it off instantly. I mean, I've never clicked with anyone the way we had. We were talking all day over text, 3-4 hours a night on the phone almost nightly. He lives an hour away and our work schedules made it difficult to meet up right away. We met about 3 weeks later, he brought me flowers, we had dinner, it was just great but all G rated we cuddled all night watching movies and talking, I fell asleep and left in the am. We saw each other again, and finally kissed and ended up giving in and sleeping together. Everything seemed to be great, but the next day he was overwhelmed and felt things were moving too fast. (At the time we first talked he was 2 months out of a 5 year long relationship and we had no intention of anything moving along this quickly) I felt like it was too fast, logically, but emotionally after all the time we'd invested in talking it felt natural.
Fast forward, it's been a month now since we've seen each other, we had been talking over text most of the day, phone convos 2-3 hours once a week or so. He felt like he needed to pump the brakes, wasn't sure that he was ready to get into anything serious quite yet, I agreed, also not ready to be serious quite yet, but wanted to keep talking to each other. 2 weeks ago he bumps into an ex girlfriends sister at a party (they broke up 10 years ago) finds out she's going through a divorce, and tells me he felt she was the one who got away. Of course I think nothing will come of this, but then he informs me he reached out to her and they've been talking a bit and he thinks he wants to pursue "fixing things" with her. I am of course hurt and confused by this, not to mention think he's lost his damn mind - I ask him well what about us? Is this goodbye then? He insists he doesn't want it to be, but perhaps we need to press pause so he can figure out whats going on. Meanwhile he's viewing all my snap stories, messaging me to make sure I made it home from a trip safe (that he only knew I was on from said snaps). I removed him from my snap friends, bc why should you get to see my life from the outside, I haven't reached out to talk to him .... and my logical side is saying he clearly is in some messed up state and searching for something familiar, and to just let it go. The other part of me is sad, pissed off, and can't stop thinking about it, and heartbroken.
I'm not even sure what I'm advice I'm asking for at this point, I guess maybe someone to just weigh in on how stupid this is. I've just never felt this pull so strongly to another person, and it suckksssssss. Be kind. Thank you.
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2019.05.29 21:36 DeadInTheFace Help me better understand Dating Apps

I've gotten upmost lucky on dating apps lately. I set it as, "Just looking for friends, even in my bio." I want female friends as much as I have male friends irl. I'm very busy, and even starting my own entrepreneur journey soon, so I don't have a lot of time to seek out social settings unless if it's the weekend. (night clubs suck here in jacksonville, going to go to more social events soon). Anyways, i'd like to think I look really good, someone your mother would nag you over to meet at best, a head turner. I take photos, but not suggestive manthot level photos. Getting maybe 5+ matches a day, and soon to take some professional photos to help better my profile, I can't help but keep asking myself, "what's the point?"
Being a black, African American male, I'm definitely not ugly, but it seems to me that, every time I match with a caucasian female, or any one of the opposite race, it doesn't even go past getting the match. I try short, creative sentences with perfect punctuation, something universally relatable, but yet, they either unmatch me, or don't interact with me at all, as if it's some curse. African American women are fine, they get along with me well, and I have an upcoming date with one this week, so my game isn't exactly the problem here. I've tried Tinder (It's a fuckfest no thank you), POF(It's just bots), Zoosk, Okcupid (these are fine, my photos just sucked back then), and so on. These dating apps are not to blame, but the simple fact of my lack of motivation with zoosk, and okcupid in the past to blame. That's not really the problem I'm trying to address though. What i'm asking is..what are women on these dating apps really looking for? Also, has anyone realized there's a lot of single moms on here looking for a man to take care of their own kids saying "They're my world" and all, For the love of god, i'm only 20, I have enough problems in my life. Not to say they're bad, or a negative part of the app, but Jesus, that's some heavy baggage. There's also a lot of broken women on here, i'm starting to think dating apps are just the stale scrappings of the large dating pool. It's like..if you're a female, and can't find a man within your 100-mile radius, are you really half decent, or just repulsive?
Why do I feel so excluded from this small community as a more dark-skinned individual? I feel like there's a big target on my face that can't be removed, or am I not the only one getting this 'special' treatment? It's tough for a man out here on these dating apps with so many more females just farming their matches like it's an idle game, storing whatever attention they get right into their overfilled egos as if it makes them feel as if they're worth more than anyone else. Why don't they just go to the bar and delete the app, rather than waste a spot in someone else's match roster? (This statement is for the women ego boosting themselves, to be clear. Not the normies)
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2019.05.03 01:35 Ughhhh1981 My fiancee doesn't think it's a big deal to be on POF

I need really honest & un-biased opinions. I met my fiance on POF...our 1st date was May 5, 2018. Fast forward to Christmas & we're engaged. Fast forward to now & we're planning a destination wedding in Mexico. All (literally all including family I haven't seen in years) our family & friends have already made deposits & payments on the trip. I love him & besides the one issue he treats me like gold...and all of our people are now involved bc of the destination wedding. He seems like the perfect man. I'm imperfect. I have trust issues, I've been ghosted in the past so I have fears, I act like I don't care about anything bc I hate feeling weak. The problem is I think he's addicted to dating sites. The same way I log into FB on breaks, in the bathroom, in traffic...he goes on the dating site. He never stopped since we started dating. I've mentioned it multiple times, I have his password so he knows I can see the messages. He messages women & calls them beautiful & sexy. He gives them his cell #. There was one he was sending dick pics to & then she sent her cell so I have no idea what happened after that. When I saw that one I got super insecure about what he was doing & our whole relationship so I did reach out to my ex. I didn't want to tell anyone we're close to bc once you tell your best friends or mom something, they will always hate the boyfriend. Did I go to far reaching out to my ex..I lied about it to my fiancee when he asked who kept calling me but I just needed to talk to someone who was removed from the situation. Granted your ex is going to dog whoever you're with but I have no interest in being with him...I was just hurt & angry. Now I'm the bad guy bc my fiancer saw messages that were kind of talking shit about him bw me & ex...so anytime I try to justify what got me to the point, he tells me he doesnt believe I haven't been talking to my ex the whole time bc I lied about it. He acts like telling random females he'd like to meet them & giving out his # is a form of entertainment...but it really hurts me. I know I rambled but I need insight...please!!!
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2019.03.14 23:03 tggrinc1st Plenty of Fish and online dating sites are openly perpetrating a fraud. So be aware and use them with caution.

I have tried Plenty of Fish, Match, OK cupid, and Tinder. But POF is free and almost all of the people on the other sites are on POF so I primarily used POF and most of the observations made here were confirmed on POF. But all of the sites named are owned by the same company, so all of the same mechanisms are in play on all of the other sites as well.
 
Lying about the number of users. Perform even a very restricted search on any personals or hook-up site and they will provide the user with a list of hundreds (if not thousands) of user profiles. However, Most of these profiles are old, inactive, and/or fake. The vast majority are very old profiles that haven't been used in a very long time. And there are lots of fake ones mixed in as well.
In one example a website told me that there were over a million active users in my area. That's more than three times the entire population of the county I live in. And more than the population of all of the surrounding localities combined.
 
Internally created fake profiles. Many years ago Match and Yahoo personals were sued by a group of users for creating false profiles and using those profiles to contact users to lure them into buying memberships by pretending that they were real people that wanted to meet them. The sites used various ridiculous concepts in an attempt to defend their obviously fraudulent activity. They claimed that these fake accounts were test accounts used to test the functionality of the site. They even went so far as to claim that their sites were for entertainment purposes only and that there was no promise made on the site that any of the users were real people.
The upshot of this lawsuit was simple. The sites now officially acknowledge that they use fake profiles to artificially inflate their user numbers AND to contact real users in an attempt to get them to buy services. This information is hidden in their terms of service.
 
Scammers and outside sources of fake profiles. We've already discussed how the sites employees deliberately create fake profiles and contact users pretending to be real people that are interested in meeting them. But there's another group of fake profiles as well. These are created by scammers and are usually used to try to redirect anyone that answers them to a paid website. Some are outright scams trying to build email lists and/or steal personal information.
The constant flow of these profiles helps the sites falsely inflate their numbers so they have no incentive to remove these profiles.
 
The internal and external fake profiles behave differently. So you can kind of tell them apart.
The external fake profiles appear, spam emails to as many users as possible, and then disappear.
The internal fakes primarily use the meet me feature. This is a paid feature where the user receives an email claiming that someone wants to meet them. If a user doesn't know how to work around it they would have to pay to see the information about the person that supposedly wanted to meet them. Fortunately for me, I know how to bypass this feature and see these profiles for free
If a user is actively using POF they'll get a few of these meet-me notification emails a week. If they stop using it the emails will continue to arrive but slowly decrease in frequency to one or two a month.
However, if a user logs in their account after being away for a while, they will automatically get several "meet-me" requests. Usually two at a time. You can usually tell which ones are fake simply from the name. They usually have names that include lots of random numbers or have under score lines in them. (example: susan_random9589)
The vast majority of these "meet me" notifications are from fake accounts. I know they are fake for several reasons. For starters, they show up suddenly, within minutes of me logging in. They never viewed my profile. And many, at least a third of them, are deleted and un-viewable before I can check to see what their profile looks like. Those that survive beyond that are brand new profiles, with one sentence descriptions, and stock pictures of very young models that are half the age that the profile states.
 
Illegally charging men for services that women receive for free. It's no secret that there are more men looking for women than there are women looking for men. So, just like bars giving free drinks to women, these sites give away free or discounted services to women with profiles that generate a lot of activity. It doesn't matter if these women are actively looking to meet anyone or even continue to use the site. Their profiles are promoted heavily and shown as active.
Not only is this disingenuous, but giving free services to women that men have to pay for is sexual discrimination. Which was illegal the last time I checked.
 
Tinder recently lost a lawsuit against it for age discrimination. They were charging older users more for the same services than they were charging younger users. Based on everything the company already does that is shady or openly fraudulent, there is really no reason to believe that they feel any obligation to behave in a forthright or honest manner. So use all of these sites with caution.
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2019.01.07 20:29 ManzVanz Tales of a 1st Date.

I've joined POF, tinder; and recently bumble on and off for the past few years, love and hate relationship if you will. I've gone to a few dates with different guys, hand full only. The 1st time; relationship lasted about 4 years. The second time; relationship lasted less than a year. Nothing wrong, just not compatible. I've always felt that online dating leaves a lot of important details out when you are trying to get to know someone. Too many question makes the date feel like a job interview. Few questions makes the date feel like it's just a casual encounter. And too personal questions makes the date feel like you are exposing too much too soon.
despite all my doubts and having the craving of finding a real and deep conection i went on a date this past weekend. I decided 2019 should be a good year and perhaps i find my person. I decided to be spontaneous and accept an invitation to go out with this guy that i had just exchanged a few messages with. He seemed nice and ticked a lot of things off my list based on the preferences on his profile. I had a gut feeling that i should of talked to him for a bit longer and make sure i wasn't going to meet up with a serial killer. (lol hey! catfishing is real!)
against my better judgement i went to meet up with him at a bar.
some of the red flags i should of recognized before are:
anyways, i met up with him at the parking lot and we are walking to the bar; even when we are entering this bar, he asked me if i wanted to go to the other one across the street instead, i said "no, this place is fine" and went to find a table.

@the bar.
anyways, there were many red flags i could see but i also understood that leaving his dog for so long was making him anxious so i gave him the benefit of the doubt and we walked to his place that was very close by.

while on the way i asked myself "was this a good idea? am i paying attention to superficial things? am i being too picky? should i just go home?"

This is where things get interesting!
We arrive at his place and the dog is going nuts inside and as soon as he opens the door a cloud of black smoke comes out along with a running dog! He accidentaly left a lit candle and his place was about to burst into flames. The candle holder was made of out wood and was nailed to the wall which was making it hard to put out. He removed half of it and brought it to the tub while i tried to unhooked the other half, mind you this piece was on fire and burning the wall and cealing! He was freaking out and running up and down while i was opening the windows and trying to get the smoke out. No fire alarms were set off but the hallway was engolfed in smoke. Fire Safety violations by the building management right off the bat.
A bit later I asked him if he had a fan so we could air the place, i had no idea that he only placed the burning pieces onto the tub but he didn't put enugh water on them to put out the fire(if you have been camping you know what i mean) so when the fan started going i saw that it was creating more smoke than pushing it out. I went to check the bathroom and saw that the piece of wood was burning AGAIN!!!! soooo due to the fan the fire was getting more oxygen and therefore the fire was coming back alive! This time someone called the firefighters because no alarms were set off. We had cleared a lot of the mess and the smoke was none existance by the time the firefighters showed up, but that didn't stopped them from coming into the apartament full forze and startling us.

and with that i went home and was taught a big lesson; always listen to your heart, feel the vibes of your gut, pay attention to the flags, and never fall for an unsure guy! (That rhymed!)

This will be included on the series "Things That Only Happen To Me" lol #TTOHTM

Thanks 2019, i think i will seat this one out.

PS: Thanks for reading, if you made it to the end you are the RMVP!
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2018.12.28 12:08 PM_ME_BOATSEX 30 [M4F] Vancouver or Toronto Canada - Another post, another try to see whats out there

I am 30, Asian, I'd say average attractiveness, about 5'7, and trying to get into better shape but currently slightly chubby, around 190 lbs. Short almost buzz cut hair. I work in healthcare with pretty erratic hours, so it is hard for me to meet people.
I recently got into a part-time school program at University of Toronto, and will be in Toronto for a week of school in January, hence why I also had Toronto in the post. I am a bit tired of Vancouver, so if opportunities come up in Toronto, I am not opposed to moving.
I would say I am a down to earth guy, usually more of a homebody but I don't mind the occasional adventure and late nights. In my down time I like to browse reddit, watch random videos on youtube, play silly Android games (Bloons TD6 if you care) and watch Netflix. - Favorite shows: Brooklyn 99, The Office, Black Mirror, Arrested Development, Community when Netflix had it but shame they removed it. Really love the Marvel Cinematic Universe and can't wait for Avengers Endgame to come out. Also really excited for the new season of Brooklyn 99, Game of Thrones, and Rick and Morty. - Also like to watch sports, play basketball, and go to the gym. Recently got a elliptical at home and been doing that as well. - My choice of music tends to be a bit older, I've been really into the older rock bands, like Pink Floyd, Led Zepplin, etc. I do try to listen to current top 40s just to keep up with the youngsters.
So here I am again posting to see whats out there. Maybe I'll find a friend, someone to hang out with, someone to chat with, maybe ultimately find love, if it is even out there for me. I go into every interaction wanting to learn more about each other, become friends first, and see where things will take us!
So if any of this catches your eye, shoot me a PM! I have skype, kik, or steam for initial contact, and course a phone number for texting and WhatsApp. Recent pics on POF upon request. I look forward to hearing from you!
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2018.12.12 06:37 digby723 Am I being old fashioned?

32F. I've been doing the OLD thing on and off for 3 years, more off than on, as of late. I've been on a variety of apps during this time (Ok Cupid, POF, bumble, the league and now tinder) and the only consensus I have in all of my experience is that a large majority of men are very sexually forward as soon as we exchange numbers. To the point where, it's almost as if I'm talking to a different person, how their behavior shifts once we move off the app.
I would prefer to meet in person quickly, because I've realized texting chemistry isn't almost there in person, but I've now blocked another guy earlier this evening after giving him my number only 5 hours ago. He kept talking to me about his boners, and my preference for how he should use his tie (blindfold, or tie me up). My profile pictures are less that proactive, and my about me is literally just things I like to do. No sexual innuendos. At one point I even wrote "not here to hookup" but that only seemed to stop all conversations, so I removed it.
Hell, my most recent date started talking about a porn festival he recently attended, and the "sexual revolution". Needless to say, that did not lead to a second date.
I'm no prude by any means, but I'm just not part of the hookup culture. I'll talk about sex freely once I'm in some sort of relationship, and I've got no problems discussing sex with close friends. However, I don't feel like putting my sexual preferences and needs out there for strangers, when they know my name and face. Information is so easy to find & in fact, just by googling the number I got tonight, I got the guys last name, and then criminal history. That only took me all of 5 minutes to do.
Am I the only one that feels like these conversations are happening very quickly? Or am I being old fashioned, and this is just how it is now?
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2018.10.23 23:32 bluexcommunion My Primary relationship has "standards" for how my secondary relationships "treat" me

Hello all. This is my first post, both in Reddit and in the Polyamory group, though I have lurked here for years. I guess I am just more of an observer by nature.

My Wife and I have been open since we met, though with varying degrees of participation and different structures at times. We discussed non-monogamy before we even met in person (POF of all places!), and it's always been a part of our journey together. We've had our ups and downs, but we both share the same convictions and ideals so we've been able to get through it. This situation is no different, although I think it might be a good discussion to have in general and maybe someone else who has the same situation can benefit from reading it. (That's how forums work)
Here goes:
I have this group of friends. I'm 100% honest and clear with this group of friends about my relationship, as I feel close enough to these people to know that they won't judge me for it. I ended up meeting someone in the group when hanging out with all of them, and there is obvious mutual attraction. Nothing more to it that night, but we ended up at the same event a couple of weeks later, and we hung out again. We talked about my marriage, and what our agreement was, what my expectations were, and how I had none for her. At this point, I am trying to do this 100% honest up front, it's not my intention to have someone make a bad decision and be an awkward one night stand. She says that although this is not something she's experienced before, she has thought about it and had conversations with friends about Non-monogamy, and that it's something she would be OK with exploring with me.

I communicate this with the wife, and we spend the rest of the evening together, and I stay the night at her place so we can do what adults do. I leave the following morning, so far so good.

Where it gets to be a "problem" is with the ensuing communication with this new girl after the fact. We exchange a few texts back and forth about possibly meeting up again, her meeting my wife at some point, all the things that would be necessary for a continued relationship if that's what she wanted. In the end, she stated that she is a "go with the flow" type, doesn't really like to make plans, but wants to see me again if it turns out that way.

Now for me, and some of you may disagree, I am 100% ok with this attitude. I want people to be whoever they are to me, and it's not 100% necessary for them to integrate into my life RIGHT AWAY. I say take your time, be a little distant and weary. I'm not losing anything, and if we can get together at some point then great. I have all my needs met, so for me its better if someone isn't trying to beat my door down and see me everyday, that's when things get weird. I told her that I wanted to see her again and get to know her more, but given my situation some kind of planning is needed, and that she would just need to decide if this was of value to her or not.

So, for my wife, she reads this dialog as disrespect. She sees it as unwillingness to fully accept me for me, avoidance of my home life (a read flag for us in the past), and in general a slap in the face. She does not "like" this person at all, sees all kinds of red flags, and wants me to cutoff all communication with her.
*I am intentionally leaving out my displeasure at her reading my messages at all, as I feel that is a different discussion, but I'm not crazy about having all my conversations monitored.*

One of our biggest milestones was the elimination of the veto rule in our marriage. We can't come out and explicitly say "you can't talk to this person anymore" as this can be thrown around in anger over something unrelated. We can, however, express concerns if someone the other is involved with shows signs of being toxic or otherwise harmful to our marriage. In this case, I completely disagree and don't see anything toxic.

So I felt a little torn. My wife seemed to vehemently dislike and disapprove of this new relationship, and while her concerns were rooted in concern for me, I felt it wasn't her place to make this judgement call and she wasn't factoring in how I felt about it.

In the end, it seems not worth it for me to try and continue this relationship, even though I want too. It feels like I'll always be defending this person and fighting with my wife about it. I hold a little bit of resentment from it, because it feels like she's overstepped her boundaries.

What do you guys think about this situation? My concern is not that I want to date this person, but that the decision was removed from my discretion and the choice was made for me. I worry that this becomes as pattern, and given that I'm poly AF and this isn't going to change, I'd like to know how i could handle this better in the future.


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2018.10.01 19:25 AssistdLvngAssistnce [VIRGINIA] SO needs surgery, but nightmarish past medical experiences terrify her. She has an Advance Healthcare Directive (Living Will, and Durable Medical Power of Attorney) - but is that enough prevent a repeat of past experiences?

My sixty-seven year old SO needs to have several necessary major surgeries done (dual hip replacement, dual knee replacement, the repair of a very large abdominal hernia, and perhaps another one related to the hernia). She can no longer walk, and is confined to a chair, in constant and great pain. We live in a third floor apartment in a building with no elevator. The only means available to get her out of the building (a “stair chair”) causes further injury. As a result, her access to healthcare is severely restricted. Her general practitioner, whom she has only seen twice in the last two and a half years, has recommended that she enter an assisted living facility that provides skilled nursing services. She needs this for the medical testing, surgery, and the therapy and recovery that cannot be provided at home.
We are not married. She has a Living Will, and I am her primary Agent.
She is terrified of losing her agency to the very medical professionals from whom she is seeking assistance. There is an unfortunately long history of negative and damaging interactions with healthcare professionals - particularly with medical procedures and surgeries. She has been lied to, deliberately misled, and has even had one of her reproductive organs removed against her wishes by a doctor she had previously fired (story below).
Nevertheless, she has decided to move forward with the surgery. Toward that goal, a family friend and I have interviewed the administrators of several assisted living facilities. A few of their responses have left us with cause for concern.
In one instance, we were discussing who would be making my SO’s healthcare decisions. We mentioned the Living Will, and the Durable Medical Power of Attorney. The administrator said, “That won’t be effective until she is unable to make decisions for herself. Until then, she is the one who will make the decisions regarding her care. Now, they’ve got to be good decisions.” Aaaannnd the red flags went a-flyin’.
Following up, the administrator said that, for example, they would not go along with amputating a limb or removing an organ that there was nothing medically wrong with. Okay… but that example is absurd and immaterial because insurance wouldn’t cover it anyway. But what about things less extreme? I had flashbacks of the organ removal fiasco (below). Could something like that happen again even WITH a medical PofA? That got me wondering where the line is and who determines where it is in the first place?
The administrator of another facility mentioned that patients have the right to refuse any treatment, procedure, or medication. Cue flashbacks from when my SO was giving birth to our child 25 years ago. The doctor wanted to inject her with something that she absolutely did not want, and she told them as much. So the doctor ordered the staff to leave, then he left after saying that she would not get any further treatment from him. Yes, he left her there in active labor with no medical care. Over an hour later, her pain grew so great that she gave “consent” under duress. The nurse gave the shot with attitude, and it damaged a nerve that she still has issues with to this day.
On closer inspection, the “rights” patients are supposed to have and the “protections” promised by the law and the Living Will seem very empty. It seems that even with these things in place, medical people can do pretty much whatever they want. My SO is justifiably worried that things similar to what happened in her past can just as easily happen now.
My legal questions are:
  1. Who makes the determination of when the Durable Medical Power of Attorney becomes active? It is a General PofA as well, so if she tells them, in writing, that she wants her Agents to make her health care decisions for her, wouldn’t that be in effect until she revoked it? If they disagree with the decisions of her or her Agent, what can they do? Could they get the court to appoint a guardian who would follow something other than her stated wishes, and render the PofA useless? How obligated are medical professionals to follow the Advance Directive?
  2. What can we do, in addition to the Durable Medical Power of Attorney and the rest of the Advance Healthcare Directive already in place, to make sure that my SO’s wishes are followed, and to pre-empt or defend against others wanting to impose their own wishes upon her, even under the guise of “what is in her best interest”?
Thank you in advance for any and all useful information and advice.
EDIT: Tried to add the organ removal story as a linked comment, but it got removed. Editing it in below.
This is a brief description of the organ removal story. Over twenty years ago, my SO went to see a gynecologist for hormonal issues. The doctor kept recommending that she have a hysterectomy because it would solve her hormonal issue regardless of the cause. She refused repeatedly, and asked that he stop recommending this procedure and instead find and treat the actual problem. He continued to insist on the hysterectomy, and would not consider other treatment options. His persistence with insisting that her reproductive organs be removed was really weirding her out. My SO decided to see another gynecologist and get a second opinion. The next closest gynecologist was over a two hour drive away, and diagnosed her with a clear case of polycystic ovary, which had been confirmed by ultrasound and hormone levels. She was prescribed HRT, which helped very quickly with symptom relief.
My SO wrote the first gynecologist a letter terminating her services with him and the practice that employed him, and demanded her medical records. Those records showed that the doctor knew that she had polycystic ovary disease after her first few visits, but never told her. He wanted to briefly meet with her before she left the building, and she confronted him with the information. He repeated the refrain that the diagnosis didn’t matter because a hysterectomy would end whatever the issue was. He suggested that she seek psychiatric help for having “an unnatural attachment to her reproductive organs”. (Seriously, WTF?) His unprofessional and slanderous comments aside, removal of her organs for whatever reason is not his decision to make.
Fast-forward three months when she is scheduled for surgery to repair an abdominal hernia (that she got as the result of a previous botched operation, which is another story). She spoke with her surgeon about having fired her gynecologist, and why. She also gave him the letter terminating the gynecologist’s services and severing their medical relationship - and a separate letter saying that the surgeon was not to contact or consult with the gynecologist or his practice on her behalf for any reason whatsoever.
The day of the operation comes, and about an hour into it the surgeon comes out to me and lets me know there is a complication. Says he is waiting on a consulting physician, who should arrive within the hour. While she was open on the operating table, he noticed that one of her ovaries looked odd. I reminded him that my SO had already discussed the PCOD issue with him. He insisted that the consultant check it out anyway. Said that it was his professional opinion that it would be more damaging to stitch her back up, get her wishes on the matter, and explicit written consent to check it out (if that was her decision), then operate again.
Naturally, the “consultant” was the fired gynecologist, “because he was the most recent specialist that treated her, and was available.” After no thought whatsoever, the gynecologist decided to remove the ovary “as a precaution because it might be cancerous.” To the surprise of no one, the tests afterward said it was polycystic.
SO was absolutely livid when she found out. Still feels to this day that this creep of a gynecologist broke into her body and stole her ovary just for spite. I cannot put into words the sense of violation she still has.
This all happened before HIPPA and Advance Directives were a mainstream thing. FWIW, I was present during all of her appointments - just as she was present during all of mine. It was a couple thing.
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2018.09.24 00:47 ghostoutlaw Does POF (the company/app) seem shady to anyone else?

Saw another post about POF being a cesspool. The quality of people on PoF isn't what bothers me, I think it's about the same across the board tbh. But POF seems to have some shady business practices.
The whole meet me feature is where it stems from. I'm not super attractive, like a 6 at best, but I'm spammed all day by "wants to meet you". Half of them are, i assume, bots that get deleted before I can check. But unless I pay for the service, the likely hood of me actually getting the card of someone who "wants to meet me" in the meet me queue is like impossible. And I confirmed this too, I had to swipe right for over 45 minutes before I got the match POF had been promising me. I get you want me to swipe right some to find what I want but like...wtf?
And I really feel like they put 0 effort into spammebot removal.
Anyone else feel this?
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2018.09.11 15:50 JTB1972 Pof upgrade con

I would just like to inform pof users that are thinking of upgrading for the meet me part, Don’t I upgraded as I had over 100 people wanting to meet me which peaked my interest only for it to turn out that about 90 of them were fake accounts. I still get about 10 a day and when I go to check them the accounts have been removed, I believe pof use this method to try and get customers to upgrade.
I have met a few nice people through pof and the last one I had a relationship for 1.5years so it does work but I had never been upgraded before now and definitely wouldn’t recommend it as the benefits aren’t worth the cost.
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